So This is a Blog?

Posted in Parenthood on November 26, 2010 by bakler5

Well I decided to enter into the vast world of “blogging.” I don’t know why, not even sure if anyone will want to read what I have to write, or if I have enough thoughts bouncing around in this big head of mine to even fulfill a blog. I am going to give it a shot anyways, what’s the worst that could happen?

My first post is going to be about my beautiful daughter, Kaylee Rose. She is 5 years old, going on 16. She has an incredibly contagious personality, and an attitude that keeps right up with it. One of her first words she learned was NO, and she has gotten extremely good at using it. Now of course Kaylee is an August baby, so her mother and I had to decide whether to have her enter school a year early or a year late. We chose the former because of how rapid her intellectual development was. But with that comes the fact that she will always be the youngest of her class, which is never a fun thing for any child, let alone a girl. Sorry Kaylee! Regardless, she just started Kindergarten this year and it has been quite the ride for both of us. Every day she is with me I swear she has learned 10 new things from school. Each car ride is accompanied by her counting as high as she can get until we arrive at our destination, and it never gets old. She must be learning how to turn letters into words now too, I get bombarded with a list of letters followed up with “What does that spell daddy?” 9 times out of 10 it is absolutely nothing, but every once in a while she will get one and shout “I am getting it daddy! I am getting it!” I love every minute of it. Her mother and I went to conferences the other night for the first time and it was nothing but compliments. Her teacher had each student do an individual questionnaire and she would write in their answers. Well one of the questions was ‘Who are your friends in class?’ and Kaylee just kept naming names until her teacher finally cut her off because she is friends with every single student. She is also a very good listener and always follows directions. That part must have been mistaken for a different student, because my Kaylee doesn’t do that at all at home! I need to sit in on a class to learn a few tricks. Needless to say, hearing from her teacher how excellent she does in class was one of the proudest moments of my short parenthood. There is no better thing to hear about your child.

Obviously there are different sides to parenting. Like tonight for example, the night of Thanksgiving, I have spent half the night cleaning up vomit and comforting Kaylee, letting her know it is okay to be sick . Now I have a weak stomach, so when she first threw up all over her bedding I was not very excited about the adventures to follow. Thanksgiving dinner vomit is not the most appealing thing to clean nor smell. Chunky turkey bits and mashed up green beans, mixed with the delightful smell of half digested apple pie. MMMMM! Makes me want leftovers. There are a lot of things that you take for granted when you are a kid. Having your parents clean up your “mess” when you get sick is definitely one of them. Thank you very much Mom and Dad! I now know how horrible it was for you! That is the best thing about being a parent though, no matter how disgusting or hard or whatever it is, it doesn’t matter one bit because it is for your one true love. They need you to be there for them no matter what, and tonight, when Kaylee is hanging over a toilet, puke running down her face, crying, I am just as proud to be a parent as I am when I am sitting in her conferences listening to her teacher gush about how great she is.



Posted in Random on January 18, 2010 by bakler5

Alright, when I decided to do this, I wasn’t expecting going almost 2 months in between posts. But it has been a pretty busy 2 months, and that is in a good way. I have gotten engaged, and about 20 different Christmases to attend, oh and the Green Bay Packers have been dominating and are hopefully on their way to the Super Bowl BABY! A lot of good things going on in my life right now, and can’t even explain how excited I am for where my life is headed right now. And that is what I want to blog about today. Not how excited I am about my life, but rather what did I do to get here, and why it is so important.

I used to live my life blaming other people for a lot of unfortunate things that happened to me, or things that didn’t go my way. It was never my fault. I had a kid at a young age, it was the mom’s fault cause she didn’t want birth control or condoms. I got in trouble in school, it was my teacher’s fault for being a dick. I got a minor consumption violation, cops are jerks, you get the idea. That mentality eventually carried over to everything. I smoked cigarettes cause I was addicted, didn’t workout cause I was too busy, it was just getting sickening. I wasn’t happy with anything and I needed to make a change, but I couldn’t convince myself to do it.

I started to get close to a friend I won’t name, and we started to have a lot of deep conversations. Now this friend has been through a lot in their life. Drug addiction, lost love, trouble with cops, you name it. Now because he had done a lot of drugs, he had kind of an odd view on life, and I thought he was crazy a lot of the time. He would talk about life balance, and karma, and all kinds of stuff that I would just nod my head at in agreement. Basically just think of the main aspects of every major religion, and he kind of melded them all into one and had his own beliefs on how the world and God work I guess. Then one day, during his rambling and my agreeing, he started to make sense. He started talking about life, explaining that everything that happens is because of what you choose to happen. Every aspect of your own life is determined by the choices you are constantly making. Now that might seem like a pretty generic statement, and you might even think it is pretty generalized thinking. But I don’t believe it is, so many people don’t live with this very elementary thought in the back of their mind. I chose to have unsafe sex, I chose to cheat, I chose to smoke, I chose to be a smart ass in class, I chose to be lazy and not make time for the gym. And it applies to so much more than that too. Love life, work life, habits, everything. “You can’t choose who you love.” Really? Why is that? I have talked to people that actually feel this way, hell I was one of them. You choose to stay with someone that treats you like garbage, and you can just as easily choose to leave them. You choose to smoke cigarettes, you aren’t addicted, you choose to do drugs, or drink. You choose to be lazy, you choose to eat unhealthy. Every last thing in your life, you always have the choice to do what you feels benefit you the best. Now I know what you are thinking, it isn’t that easy, emotions come into play, or if you are addicted to drugs or cigarettes there are chemical imbalances that cause you to be addicted, or whatever other factors there are. I say that is garbage, the mind is the most powerful part of your body, and if you can convince yourself that life is as simple as making a basic choice, then life will be a lot easier. This is how I try my hardest to live, and it has made a world of difference I believe.